What is a woman’s natural biological clock?
www.extendfertility.com~ When it comes to issues of fertility, it is the age of the egg, not the age of the woman that matters most. Women are born with a finite number of eggs, around 1 million. At puberty, that number has dwindled to 400,000 and subsequently approximately 750 eggs are lost each month. The eggs not only begin to diminish in quantity, but also in quality. The combination of these factors leads to a woman’s fertility beginning to decline in her 20’s and significantly deteriorating after age 35.
Taken from http://www.extendfertility.com/female-biological-clock.htm
When people say my biological clock is ticking do they mean that they should rush to have children because perhaps they could be running out of time? Well, I might sat that I feel like my biological clock is ticking, however I dont feel the needs to try to rush to use whatever eggs that I may have left. I don’t feel the need to go freeze dry and store my eggs for later. But, I would like to experience holding a child of my own in my arms…not a child that I birthed, but one that was divinely created for me.
Some people find out they can’t have children and to them it’s the end of the world…but what about the numerous children that already exsist that are awaiting homes and families.
Is it that we feel that we can’t bound with what didn’t come from with us?
Or is it just the desire to have the experience of childbearing…well, in my case I would’nt mind child rearing (raising) over child bearing (preganacy). There is nothing that I would miss…not the morning sickness…not the weight gain…not the swollen feet and definitely not the Labor!
Don’t get me wrong there was a time in my life that I wanted to have kids…better yet there were a couple of times..I’ve even dreamed it several times…But, NOW? I’m just not sure.. I’m too afraid to end up like single mothers I see, trying to be mommies and daddies struggling to make to work and to daycare center on-time…I cant see spitting my child between two housewholes.
Now I’m not saying that all mother’s to be will ultimately end up raising their kids alone-but in today’s society often times they do. So, I rather make a concious decision by myself so that it entirely what I wanted not what I thought I was going to share with another person. That’s what’s wrong with us- we make premature decisions…we have sex with no rubber than think about the fact that we could end up responsible for another life AFTER, we have one nightstands and think about protection the morning after…
So, lets say I’m thinking this one through thoroughly, I want kids! I want kids soon! I’ m just not ready to have kids of my own…there’s so many kids out there…with some much ove to give…awaiting people like me and you!!
So, every night that you goto sleep childless…a child goes to bed motherless (fatherless).
Everytime that you miscarried another child was born.
For every tear that you dropped a lonely child has dropped two.
So, consider adoption.
I did an adoption 4 yrs ago. its hard….but I feel like I did something very selfless for the benefit of my son. I still have contact with him and he has so much love and support in his life. I feel as though I blessed a family. I jus hope he understands in the future….i honestly didn’t have much of a decision.
Comment by mallory — July 22, 2008 @ 6:54 am